How To Even…Power Lunch Part 2: Women-Dining-With-Male

How To Even…
6 min readAug 2, 2018

By CL Bledsoe & Michael Gushue

Today’s How-To-Even is a twofer. Two How-To-Evens for the price of one! Part 1 is How To Even…Power Lunch: Male-Dining-With-Male. Part 2 is How To Even…Power Lunch: Women-Dining-With-Male. As we say below, women can use nearly all the same tactics and strategies that males employ in power lunching, but WDWM power lunching presents some unique opportunities and techniques that can boost your power points to the next mage level. In a perfect world, men would be replaced by sandwiches, which are useful and delicious. But until then, women will have to subject themselves to having to lunch with males. And we’re here to help.

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Regardless of gender, there are many overlaps in successful power lunching For example, advice on being on time or bragging strategically works equally well for women as for men. Here,we’re only going to touch on a handful of salient, gender-specific tips.

(Note: Neither of us identifies as women, and we are aware that this limits our ability to advise women How To Even win at power lunch. We have conducted extensive research with Christy that one time we had coffee with her at Starbucks. It must have been 15 minutes, maybe 20, though she was on her phone for at least five of those minutes. Her help with this How To Even was invaluable, especially the part about not merely substituting earrings for cufflinks, even though they are the same, kind of.)


Nothing prevents the female power luncher from using the kung fu of cufflinks, even though cufflinks are not a common accessory for female attire. Luckily, there is an easy substitute that will work for women in exactly the same way cufflinks work for men. A battle-axe (see note 1). Hear us out on this. One of the most effective ways to Win Power Lunch (WPL) is to use the element of surprise. Picture the scene. Your co-worker is sitting at the table, waiting because he knows that punctuality is an effective way to WPL. He’s been there long enough to get breadsticks. You enter the restaurant, stride up to the table as he’s reaching for a breadstick, and slam your battle-axe down, cutting the breadstick in half, along with the bowl, and part of the table (see note 2). You sit, perhaps tear the end off a phallic-like breadstick, and wave for a waiter.

“Could we get some fresh breadsticks?” you ask, not mentioning the axe. Your co-worker is…